Ever notice how easy it is to get off track? You have full intentions of going one way, but seem to manage to stray from that path. This can happen in anything with regards to life, even in love and relationships.
You meet someone new and it is so exciting. You want to see this person as much as you can and learn everything about them, right? You can do that but relax. Enjoy the beginning.... I myself have always found the beginning stages to be somewhat stressful. You can't eat....you can't sleep....there are butterflies constantly in flight in your stomach. I always want to push through this and get to the calmer stage....the one that allows me to eat and sleep because I get so cranky if I don't eat or if I lose sleep....we all do! :) What's bad is that I am missing out on the fun...the playfulness....the flirting. Not that this doesn't happen, but what fun is the beginning if you give into the flirting easy? There's no fun without the initial chase, is there? Yeah, I know...some people call this playing games, but it's not. It's just how it all starts and it makes you feel so good about yourself.
So I find myself (as some may know) in this category. I've met someone and in my attempt to push through the unnerving parts, I find myself attempting to push through the initial "game" to the less awkward and less butterfly part. Something hit me today though. I know I'm not getting any younger, and am in one sense ready to get on with my life while in another sense am afraid of ending up in a situation similar to my previous marriage. I know I cannot live in fear either way and need to relax and get back on track because I realized something..... isn't it just possible that I am missing out on one of the best parts? I abruptly stopped what I was doing and began analyzing this. Yes...the analytical Virgo trait kicked it, but for once it was a good thing. I got to thinking about when he and I first started talking so I went back to the first messages (yes, I still have them) and re-read them and started wondering why? Why did I want to rush this part? Why did I want to skip over it? It's fun and playful and flirty.
Every girl likes to see how much effort a guy will put into noticing you and wooing you, right? Everyone knows it doesn't last forever, so enjoy it! Let him chase you. Don't give in...there's no fun in that. You got to resist a little. Don't always change your plans to see him. It's okay. Yes...some of you may be thinking that as adults, you can't always find the time to date with your work and kids and whatever obligations you have and that if he has time, change your plans to see him. That's been my philosophy, but I am not sure it's the correct way of thinking. He doesn't need to think you are keeping your schedule open for him. How you handle that is up to you, but sometimes you may want to make him work a little instead of giving in so easily. That will teach him to plan in advance....to ask you out earlier in the week instead of the last minute. How bad does he want to get to know you? How bad does he want to see you? I guess this is when you will see.
Get back on track with dating. It's okay if you get a little caught up or side-tracked, you can get back to where you need to be. You will always find your way back and if not, maybe he will be patient and be there to steer you back in the right direction. Just remember though......enjoy all aspects of your life and live it to the fullest because we are not guaranteed tomorrow.
