It's Complicated

Life throws many things at you - some expected and others not so much.  There are unexpected pregnancies, deaths, breakups, medical issues, car problems, financial problems, etc. . .the list could keep going and going.  Many times when you are faced with situations such as these or speak to someone that is going through something of this nature, you will hear the statement, "It's complicated."  I'm sure you have said it yourself because I know I have, but is it that the situation or circumstances are really that complicated or that our lack of acceptance makes it that way?

Perfect example:  A girl and guy are in a relationship.  They've been dating awhile (or maybe not even long at all) and she comes up pregnant.  Parents ask what happened and the daughter says that it's complicated.  Translation: I had sex with my boyfriend.  We didn't use protection and I am now pregnant.  --- It's not that she mysteriously got pregnant or it was another virgin birth, she just doesn't want to disappoint her parents. . .hence the complication.

Or how about boy and girl meet, date, fall in love, and then one falls out of love and decides to break up, saying it's complicated.  How complicated can it actually be?  Is he/she trying to spare the feelings of the other? To let the other down easy? It's kind of like the statement "It's not you, it's me."  What does that even mean?!  Just have the guts to stand up and say, "I am not interested in you like that" or "I've met someone else."  The truth is a lot easier to swallow than the vague statements.

Vague statements lead to confusion, analyzing of the relationship/situation and trying to determine what happened or what went wrong.  That's where the complication comes into play . .the not knowing and not having answers due to someone's blatant misleading comments, vague comments, or lack thereof. It also comes from the constant thoughts and memories you just can't let go of, the ones that have you thinking that everything was perfect when maybe it really wasn't.  Thinking is fine, but over thinking and over analyzing draws you into the world of complication.

Complications in life stem not only from the situation but also from our view of the situation.  It's all in our thinking process and possibly our way of not wanting to deal with the reality of the situation or in an attempt to protect others from the details.  Basically to rid the world from complications, you have to start with yourself, with your own thinking, with truth and honesty not only towards yourself but towards others as well.  Then and only then can the complications in the world fade away.